Ceremonies as unique as you
You are eclectic. Unique. You dance to the beat of your own drummer, and you've found that special someone whose music meshes with your own internal rhythms. Someone proposed, someone said yes and now you are planning the first 'official' day of your lives together.
I can help.
I plan and perform civil, spiritual, theme and outrageous wedding and commitment ceremonies which are customized and crafted to reflect your personalities and relationship.
Plan the Ceremony of your Dreams
White dresses and tuxes, with pomp and circumstance
Honor your different spiritual path as well as the things you share
In the mountains, on a beach or in the backyard with just a few of your closest family & friends
Reflect diversity and cultural traditions
Celebrate a shared interest like activism, community theatre, alternative love-styles, kink
Somewhere you've already made a memory, or want to make a new one
Spotlit on the jumbotron as you exchange vows at your favorite sporting event
I am a sex educator - Let's marry you where you like to get sexy! Strip club, play space, etc.
Your wedding ceremony should be a reflection of Who you Are
I am dedicated to making sure That it is
Because I do not discriminate I do not have any prerequisites for working together; therefore, a first meeting is not required. Most people, however, do want to meet before making a commitment to work together. It's important that we both feel comfortable with the ensuing plans, so I offer a complimentary, no-obligation consultation. It is strictly to get more information about each other and make sure that I can fulfill your desires. This meeting can be in person or via Zoom, which is especially helpful for very busy couples and those who live outside of the Pioneer Valley. The location of an in-person meeting can be determined by our schedules and distance.
At this point, after talking with you a bit and receiving your questionnaire, I'm ready to create and present you with a first draft. All editing can be done electronically , and each time edits are made, I will send you another draft copy. Once the ceremony is approved, we will add staging elements when appropriate, and send you the final version prior to your rehearsal.
No, I don't mean that I want to come to Paris with you (though Iwouldn't turn down the offer!). I mean that I perform many other types of rites, rituals and ceremonies, and would be happy to continue working with you throughout your relationship. I love to celebrate the milestones in your life, and my greatest hope is that our relationship to you becomes more than business, but rather a lasting friendship!
Once we have decided to work together, we enter into a contract to insure that there are no misunderstandings about the services promised and provided to you. I will draft a contract and send it to your for your feedback and, ultimately, approval.
I must also receive a deposit of half of the agreed fee in order to reserve your date. Upon receiving your deposit, your date will be held in our calendar and we will get to work on your customized service. The remainder of the fee is due by the start of your ceremony.
While some very simple ceremonies will not require a rehearsal, I strongly urge you to consider one if we've worked hard on creating a custom ceremony with multiple elements. I can usually ascertain the types of weddings that should be rehearsed at our initial meeting, and the rehearsal will be included in our contract and fee. I am the 'ring-master' of the ceremony portion of your event, and will coordinate with all participants including family, the wedding party and site staff to insure your ceremony goes off without a hitch on your wedding day.
Because I work with many different kinds of people, ranging from traditional to very eclectic, I must spend some time discovering who you are, how you came to love one another and what you envision for your wedding day. While we can perform a standard ceremony based on our samples (click here for a simple and here for an eclectic example), I much prefer to craft a custom ceremony.
I have designed a questionnaire that will help you think about various elements of your ceremony as well as give us vital information to perform it according to your wishes. You may have already thought about some of the questions, and others will get your creative juices flowing. This questionnaire is not a quiz. There are no right answers, only responses that fine tune what will be right for you on your wedding day.
Of course, I will be there on the day of your wedding to perform the ceremony! My job is to make sure that everything regarding the ceremony runs smoothly. Some people are nervous or emotional and may need some help getting through the ceremony. We are there to guide you through it, and prompt you if you get lost. In my opinion, my most important job is to help hold the space for your magical event to unfold the way you want it!